Motherhood Isn’t Meant to Lose You
Torie is a life coach for mums.
Her work begins with a truth many mothers feel but rarely say out loud:
Motherhood can crack you open.
In ways you didn’t expect.
In ways no one really prepares you for.
There’s love.
But also overwhelm.
Guilt.
A quiet sense of losing who you once were.
And while many women know they’ve changed…
They’re not always sure who they’re becoming.
Torie helps mothers navigate that space.
Not by focusing only on what’s hard…
But by guiding them back to themselves.
To their joy.
Their identity.
Their sense of purpose beyond just being “mum.”
Because motherhood isn’t the end of who you are.
It’s an invitation to rediscover yourself in a new way.
And when that shift happens, everything feels different.
More connected.
More intentional.
More alive.
The Power of Being Seen
Torie’s work is built on years of supporting women.
First as a teacher.
Then through birth work.
And now, as a coach.
But one of the most defining moments came through something simple:
Women sitting together.
Sharing.
Listening.
Being heard.
In the mothers’ circles she held, she saw something powerful.
The impact of connection.
Of women realizing they weren’t alone.
That what they were feeling wasn’t wrong.
Or broken.
Or theirs to carry in silence.
But she also saw a pattern.
The same struggles.
The same questions.
Coming up again and again.
And she knew something more was needed.
Not just space to share…
But support to create real change.
That’s what led her into coaching.
A way to not only hold space.
But to help women move forward.
The Stories We Carry
One of the beliefs Torie has had to work through is the idea that mothers don’t invest in themselves.
It’s something she heard early on.
Something that stayed.
Even when her own experience proved otherwise.
Because time and time again, she’s seen mothers choose themselves.
Choose growth.
Choose support.
Even in the middle of everything they carry.
And yet, those old stories can still surface.
Especially in quieter seasons.
Moments where doubt creeps in.
Questioning what’s possible.
But awareness changes the relationship with those thoughts.
Because you can notice them…
Without letting them define you.
Navigating Change in Real Time
Right now, Torie is in a season of transition.
Not just in her business.
But in her life.
With changes happening around her family and her children, she’s being asked to reassess.
To look honestly at her capacity.
Her energy.
What she can hold right now.
And what needs to shift.
But through it all, one belief remains steady:
That mothers deserve to centre their own joy.
Not as a luxury.
But as something essential.
Because when a mother prioritizes her own wellbeing…
She models something powerful.
Something her children carry with them.
And that’s a lesson that lasts.
Sitting in the Unknown
The biggest challenge Torie is facing right now isn’t a lack of clarity in her work.
It’s uncertainty.
Not knowing exactly what’s ahead.
Or how things will unfold.
And having to sit in that space…
Without rushing to fix it.
Without forcing answers.
Which is uncomfortable.
Especially for someone who’s used to taking action.
To solving problems quickly.
But life doesn’t always move that way.
Sometimes it asks you to pause.
To wait.
To trust.
Even when you don’t have the full picture.
And that’s where Torie is right now.
In the stretch.
In the in-between.
Learning to hold uncertainty…
While still staying connected to what matters.
Coming Back to Yourself
At the heart of Torie’s work is a reminder:
You don’t have to lose yourself in motherhood.
You don’t have to choose between caring for your family…
And being connected to who you are.
There is space for both.
For joy.
For purpose.
For a version of motherhood that includes you.
Because when mothers feel like themselves again…
Everything around them shifts.
And maybe that’s where it starts.
Not with doing more.
But with coming back.
To yourself.
At Reignelle, we’re reminded: what happens when you let motherhood be the thing that makes you find yourself? It can become the very place where you reconnect, redefine and rediscover who you truly are.